March 11, 2022
What do you think an elopement is? If you close your eyes and imagine it, what do you see? A guy in an Elvis suit performing the ceremony? A couple getting married for the legal stuff? Or is it just blank, because you don’t really know what an elopement is?
I often forget, that to me an elopement is a very natural thing, it is something I deal with on a daily basis, but to others, it is not common knowledge. And then, if they do come across the term, they look it up and they get this explanation: To elope is for two people to run off and get married in secret. And that maybe was the case, waaaayyyy back when! But it is not anymore!
Today people elope for other reasons, but the common thread is, that they do not want the big production of a classic wedding. They do not wish to follow a template. They want it to be something unique, honest and very personal and they do not feel the big wedding can give them that. But an elopement can.
An elopement is an intentional and authentic union between two people who love each other and want to celebrate their commitment to spend their lives together in a deeply personal way.
Does that mean, that an elopement is always without any guests, other than the couple. No, not at all. It can be just the couple, but it can also be with a select group of friends and family. It is not clearly defined how many people can be a part of the celebration, before it turns into a more classic wedding. In my opinion, and other photographers might think differently, it is about 12-15 people, maybe sometimes up to 20.
Here’s the thing; it is actually not so much a numbers thing, it is a mindset thing. If you have more people, you’re gonna have more planning. Suddenly you’re needing to bear in mind a lot of considerations and slowly the focus turns to you catering your guests and you start loosing sight for, why you’re doing this. To elope is to have focus on the two of you, your love and commitment.
How does an elopement look then? Well, there is no easy answer to that. It can look like most anything you want. So don’t think of it in terms of what you’re supposed to do.
Think of it like this; what do you want your big day to be full of? What would you like it to look like? It is 100% your call. I do sometimes hear people say, that it is ‘just’ a little wedding, as if it needs to be a big wedding to deserve the extra fuzz. And I call BS on that!
Your elopement is every bit as meaningful, important and deserving as any other wedding and don’t you let anyone – or yourself – tell you otherwise.